What IS Bodacious Butterfly Inc?

Ok so I'm sure that you all have waited long enough to find out exactly what BBI is. Soooo I'll tell you how it all came about:

As a freshman last year I noticed a lot of heavier girls my age, younger, and older who seemed to care little or naught about their appearance. My mother would always hassle me about "Taking pride in my appearance," so when I saw this I immediately heard her voice in my head and I wanted to shout the same thing to them!

When I got back to my room I thought about those girls and all of the labels that are always attached to being "plus sized." We are called lazy, sloppy, nasty, insecure all of the negative things that you could think of and here I sit and reminisce on what I've just seen realizing why that is! I could count on one, maybe two hands the amount of girls who kept themselves up and I empathized with them. Maybe I could blame it on the fast pace sweats and a t-shirt college life that we were living, but step outside of the college district and I see the same things.

I see the overweight woman ordering mass amounts of fried chicken because that's the only thing she can afford or even bring herself to desire, I see the teenage girl who wants to look sexy but doesn't know exactly how to compete with her smaller friends who can wear the things she only wishes to. I see the quiet 4th grader who is teased about being chubby and just wants to be treated like everyone else.


Now what I was HEARING about heavier girls was disturbing as well. I heard guys speak about being able to take advantage of bigger girls because they are usually insecure and have few options for love. Now what?????? Excuuuuse me, but I happen to be a VERY picky girl so I don't know where that came about. But then again, I am just me.


Along with that, I was a witness to many of my curvy sisters settling because they didn't feel like they were at their best and were insecure either about their weight or figure or simply were trying to find their niche and importance in a world that was constantly telling them that they were not as good as everyone else. Big girls are constantly under appreciated, you can tell by the lack of fit and style in clothes at the retail store, the constant ridiculing of celebrities when they gain a few pounds, the comments made such as the prior assumption that they can be used and deceived with false feelings of endearment...it all matters in this downward spiral of the fuller figured.


I know how this feels, I was there and sometimes I still find myself in that place, picking and prodding at my insecurities, the rolls on my back, hips that got me the nickname "Wide Load," Jiggly arms and thighs that I can't for the life of me fathom. A lot of emotional distress occurs when you don't feel good about yourself which can lead low self esteem, low self worth, or even depression....just a WHIRLWIND OF INSECURITIES!


But it all starts with loving yourself. Start from within and treat your mind, body and spirit like the beautiful temples that they are. I am not saying that I am the perfect example of the empowered plus sized woman,  but I am doing what it takes to get there and help my fellow Bodacious Butterflies transform spiritually, mentally , emotionally and even physically into the confident and powerful people that we can become :)


I want to first give you all a test:
The Holiday is soon approaching and that means food, family, and fun. Just take the small step of eating with moderation. Indulge in your family and the fun, not the food. This time is about giving thanks and showing what you are grateful for. Take this time to laugh, play games, catch up with those you've neglected during the week and maybe even the year. Your heart, stomach and thighs will in turn thank YOU for not leaving them with the after effects and the "Ooooo I shouldn't have eaten all of that" speech when you need to fit into that suit for work on Monday.


So if you like, join the fan page and help me help you help me help you on the journey to become the people that we both know there is potential for us to become ;-)